Bruno P
Our inner child shapes who we are as adults. When wounded, it impacts our relationships and self-worth. Recognizing these signs can help you heal and reconnect with your true self. Here are ten subtle yet telling signs that your inner child might be carrying unhealed wounds.
Perfectionism Rules Your Life
You might often struggle to start or finish projects, fearing they won’t meet impossibly high standards. This perfectionism stems from childhood experiences where you felt you had to be “perfect” to be loved or accepted. The chase for flawlessness begins here!
The Inability To Say “No”
This inability originates from your budding years when your needs were overlooked or dismissed. More often than not, you find yourself saying “yes” when, in fact, you’d rather do anything else in the world. This leads you to prioritize others’ happiness at the expense of your own.
Emotions Overwhelm You
You might feel ashamed about your “overreactions,” unaware that your inner child is simply crying out for acknowledgment and healing. Rooted in unresolved childhood traumas, it’s likely that small triggers send you into intense emotional spirals!
Intimacy Scares You
Are you someone who yearns for closeness but pushes people away? Then, you are probably caught between longing and fear! This guardedness and repeated struggle to form deep connections, arise from betrayal or abandonment you faced as a child.
Success Feels Like A Lie
No matter your achievements, you feel like a fraud waiting to be exposed. This nagging self-doubt from your younger days mirrors how your efforts were once disparaged. You discount your successes, attributing them to luck rather than your own abilities.
The Need To Control Everything
As a youngster, chaos and unpredictability may have taken control of your life. This can lead to an urge to micromanage every aspect of your life, often resulting in stress and anxiety. The struggle to “go with the flow” is real!
Criticism Crushes You
To you, constructive feedback feels like a personal attack! Many times, the hypersensitivity stems from harsh criticism received while growing up. As a result, you try to separate your worth from your actions, interpreting any negative comment as proof of your inadequacy.
Chronic People Comparison
This behavior might be commonly visible if you were compared to your siblings or peers. It makes you work harder towards your idealized version of success, as you constantly fall short post-comparison.
The Responsibility Overload
Are you feeling accountable for everyone’s happiness? This enables you to end up taking on responsibilities that are different from yours! Early experiences where you had to step up to be the “adult” too soon usually cause this over-functioning.
Stuck In Victim Mode
Growing up, lack of agency or support likely led to the development of this worldview. Victimizing yourself means that you often feel helpless, believing bad things just happen to you. You find it difficult to acknowledge your ability to alter circumstances, subconsciously repeating victimization patterns.
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