
There are 25 big mistakes people make after losing a spouse. Unfortunately, some people can’t keep from making several of the same mistakes.
They ignore their grief

Either it’s too much for them to deal with, or they don’t process the emotional pain. But ignoring it entirely only makes things worse in the long run.
Making big decisions without thinking about them

Sometimes a person’s other half is their balancing force and keeps them from impulses that otherwise run amok. Big decisions that require two perspectives become untenable when that other half isn’t there to offer a different opinion.
Some people don’t take care of themselves

It’s easy to say that without someone else there to help out, a person has no moral compass to guide them. Unfortunately, that’s an excuse for unresolved grief, and some people will fail to see the point of taking care of their physical being after losing their ‘guiding light’.
Their finances go haywire

So many of these points deal with the balance that comes from a union of two people that it could sound repetitive after a while. But the fact is that many relationships have one individual who is loose with money and another who is tight, or responsible, with it.
Taking on too many commitments is common

Without your significant other in the picture any longer, there’s a huge gap that for many years is filled with that person’s opinions, activities, and presence. Some people find the need to fill that gap with as many distractions as possible.
Suppressing memories is not healthy

The act of trying to forget or not think about the life that one has led with another is not wise. The memories that make us who we are remain important even when we lose people, whether bad or good, they are reminders of how we became the people we are now.
Ignoring the grief their family is going through is a problem

This isn’t just dangerous to a family dynamic, it’s irresponsible to a large degree. If there are family members who are also in pain, it is better to share that pain with them rather than ignore them entirely.
Escaping into social media is not the answer

Social media is a lot of fun for some people and can become a huge distraction. But diving headlong into it after the loss of a loved one is not healthy, nor is it bound to soothe the pain.
Some individuals don’t take care of their home

This is a very typical side effect of losing a spouse. It has nothing to do with who cleaned the house in the relationship that often since it’s more about losing the will to keep going.
They put off setting new goals

In the minds of some, it feels as though they don’t see the purpose in trying anything new or striving for anything else in life. Time off from aspirations isn’t a bad thing, but not thinking about the future is dangerous.
Lack of sleep is a serious issue

How do you sleep when the person you slept next to for so long isn’t there? Some people can’t sleep when their spouse is away for a night or two, but in this situation, it becomes even worse.
Not sticking to a personal routine can have negative effects

Your personal routine doesn’t feel the same without your spouse. Something is missing, even if your routine is independent of your SO.
Comparing your grieving process is not smart

Don’t play a ‘top this’ with anyone, since it’s not fair to them and it’s not healthy for you. Grief is not a competition, since it’s a personal thing that you need to get through on your own.
Avoiding dealing with future plans is not a great way to live

Any plans that you had with your SO are seriously disrupted when that person passes away. Whether you cancel or not is up to you, but dealing with them in one way or another is necessary.
Legal matters need to be dealt with

Sadly, life does come with legal matters to tend to when it ends. Despite the pain this causes, one needs to handle things so that the family can move on.
Some people need to seek mental care

It’s unfortunate, but some folks cannot deal with the loss of their spouse on their own. This doesn’t mean they’re weak, it simply means that they need help to cope and move on.
Overspending is a big problem

Why this would be an issue is hard to say, except that things can sometimes be used to fill a gap, at least temporarily. Unfortunately, one usually needs to keep buying things to make that happen.
Spiritual health is a matter that needs tending to

This is a debate among some people, but the common saying ‘no atheist in a foxhole’ kind of applies. After all, many people want answers when they lose someone close to them.
Isolation is not a suitable answer to grief

Being alone is not the answer, even if it feels easier. People need to grieve, to heal, and to move on, and only being around those who care can help that process.
Finding another partner quickly is not a great idea

A rebound partner after being married for so long is not a good idea, ever. It fills the void, but much like buying things, it will only last unless there’s a real connection.
Blaming others for the loss is not wise

It’s very easy to lay the blame for your troubles on someone else. But losing a spouse is not the time, nor is it anyone else’s fault in many situations.
Shutting down emotionally is a big mistake

In many cases, there are family members who still need you after you lose your spouse. Shutting down is not allowable, and it’s not smart.
Cutting people out of your life is not advised

This is unavoidable in some cases, but it’s never the answer. Cutting someone out of your life is an act that can’t be taken back so easily.
Using anger to solve everyday issues is not effective

Contrary to what a lot of people say, anger has its uses. But in this case, it will only make things worse.
Actively pushing people away is harmful to everyone

People are there to help, to come together and get through a time such as this. Pushing them away is natural in times of grief, but it’s unwise since some people will step away if pushed.
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