Sometimes the most innocuous conversations lead to the biggest revelations. This morning, while driving my four-year-old daughter to her Pre-K class, we were talking about school. She told me she loves her job. I asked her what her job was, and she told me school. I asked her why she considers school her job and she told me because daddy gets up every morning to go to his office and itâs his job, and she gets up every morning to go to school because itâs her job. It was then that she asked me what my job is. I thought for a moment. I work from home as a freelance writer, but I donât consider it my job. I consider it a hobby and my job is taking care of my children.
I explained her that my job is to be the best mommy in the world. Itâs my job to make sure my girls are happy, healthy, cared for, loved, and have a lot of fun. Itâs my job to make sure she learns, that she is compassionate and kind, and that she always has good food to eat, a lovely home to live in, lots of fun toys, vacations, experiences, and a good attitude. With that in mind, I realized itâs also my job to make sure she always has good self-confidence. As parents, it might be our most important job. Hereâs how you can help your kids build their self-confidence.
Make Sure Your Kids Feel Loved
The best way to build a kidsâ self-confidence it to make sure they know they are loved. Children who know they are important to people have far more confidence. Practice making sure your kids know you are there for them, that they know you have patience, and that they can always come to you. Of course, your patience may wear thin from time to time, but kids will remember your predominant behavior, so as long as you are there for them most of the time, theyâll be pretty self-confident.
Show Your Own Self-Confidence
If your kids constantly hear you belittling yourself, they will learn the same habit. Even if you donât have any self-confidence, fake it in front of your kids. Take some time to learn how to build your own confidence level, but never let your kids see your lack of it.
Be Positive
If you are constantly nagging your kids about all they do wrong, theyâll start thinking that theyâre bad and that they canât do anything wrong. You canât let poor behavior go, but you can spend more time focusing on their good behavior, positive traits, and positive aspects of their personalities. Kids see themselves the way others see them, and if youâre constantly asking them why they canât be like their kinder older sibling or friend, theyâll start to lose confidence.
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