What You’re Doing that Might Make Your Friends Pull Away


There might come a time in your life when you think that people you were once close with are beginning to pull away. Perhaps you begin to assume they want nothing to do with you anymore because they have new friends or because you’re no fun anymore. That’s probably not always the case. Yes, people do drift apart. However, more often than not, your actions are what cause your loved ones to pull away from you. Here are three common mistakes you make that cause your loved ones to pull away.

Your Response

Life is busy and you have a lot to do, yes, we get it. Everyone gets it. Everyone’s life is busy and there are never enough hours in the day to make it worthwhile. However, when your loved ones send you a text message or call you or shoot you an email and it takes you days or weeks to respond, they’re going to start feeling as if you aren’t interested in your relationship anymore and they’ll begin to pull away. While it’s not uncommon to forget to reply to a text you received in the middle of the store or when you were driving, letting it happen all the time is a surefire method for turning your friends away from you.

It’s All About You

There are times in your life when you’re going to be more likely to want to talk about you, you, you. Think; pregnancy, new baby, wedding planning. However, don’t make it a habit to do this. It’s okay to tell your friends about the updates your doctor gave you or on the venue, but don’t dominate every single conversation with things about you and you alone. Let them ask, ask them questions about themselves and let the conversation flow naturally. It’s not all about you.


If there’s one thing in life that’s certain, it’s that the people who state they don’t have drama in their lives are most often the people with the most drama in their lives. If every dinner date and conversation is a dramatic recap of all the awful and dramatic things in your life and family, your friends aren’t going to want to spend time with you. Your drama comes from within. If you let it in your life, it’s your problem. Your friends see clearly that you’re the only reason you suffer from drama and since they don’t want it in their lives, they’ll consider pulling away from you because you bring it into theirs.

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