What is a “Love Contract” and Should You Have One?


A love contract? What is this that we speak of? The simple truth of the matter is that we aren’t entirely positive of this ourselves, so we had to do a little digging to find out what it means, what it is and how we go about creating this alleged love contract. And we also had to find out whether or not this is something we need. Turns out, a love contract is a pretty good idea. To sum it up and make it as simple to understand as humanly possible, a love contract is a set of rules two people create that helps them define their relationship and what it means to them. For example, if you and your spouse would like a love contract, you will come up with rules and common ground that you can agree upon to help maintain a positive and energetic love. Designed to help keep your marriage strong and your vows at the forefront of your mind, your marriage contract is a bit more than just your vows. It’s a way to ensure that you have some sort of agreement with one another that specifically states your wants, needs and your desires. It’s a way to ensure there is no gray area in your relationship.

For example, your love contract can state anything you want it to state. For example, you can say that you will never go to bed angry, never walk out on one another and never engage in a physical, emotional or even mental affair with anyone outside of your marriage. It can state anything you want, and it can help. Here’s the deal, however; you do not need a love contract. Your wedding vows pretty much sum up what you’re trying to say here, but it doesn’t hurt to have a little something like this in your life. It’s really up to you and your marriage; and what you see as appropriate.

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