The misconception that couples therapy is just for those who are on the brink of divorce is just asinine. Dax Shepard, husband of Kristen Bell (you know her as Anna from Frozen), and his wife are in couples therapy and they’re not even considering a divorce – nor were they ever. Bell said it best, “You do better in the gym with a trainer, you don’t figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about,” and she is oh-so correct. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. The couple has been together almost a decade and they readily admit they have very few things in common. Shepard says he was not an overly positive person and that Bell was just sparkly and wonderful and he felt she must be in a cult to be so happy all the time. They began seeing a therapist early in their relationship because they feel it makes them a better couple; it helps them to become the kind of couple who rocks the marriage thing with help from someone else.
The truth is that most people should be in therapy from the start, not at the end. By the time most couples enter into therapy it’s too late; their marriage is already over and all they are doing is making the effort to look as if they are trying a little bit more. Imagine always having a safe place; an outlet. Someone who is well-versed in the art of marriage to be there for you to listen and to encourage your marriage. Someone who will encourage teamwork and happiness, success and healthy communication. It’s genius, really, and more couples should try this before they make the decision to tie the knot and start their happily ever after.
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