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Friendship is a beautiful bond that can last decades. Remember that even friendships can break apart due to irresponsible behaviors. You may be the closest to your friend, but it is crucial to maintain a fine line of respect and privacy. Here are 20 common yet annoying habits that have the potential to sabotage friendships.
Constantly Interrupting
Let your friends say whatever they want and do what they like. Your constant interruption is silently sabotaging your friendship. Interruption can be in any way, such as cutting someone in mid-sentence or not letting them share their perspective. Between friends, it is important to let the other one express their ideas and thoughts in a safe space.
Always Being Late
Do you think is it okay to always be late and make others wait? Well, such behavior is undoubtedly disrespectful. Even when it is about your best friend, being late displays disrespect for their time and commitments. Individuals who maintain such behavior in the long run destroy friendships.
Talking Only About Oneself
Friendship is a two-way relationship. In this delicate relationship, both individuals hold equal value. A friend who only talks about themselves without allowing the other to share their opinion creates imbalance. Such behavior gives the impression that the other person is not respected or heard. When with friends, always allow communication to be two-way.
Never Listening
Just as talking about oneself all the time shows disinterest, never listening to others can also sabotage friendship. What develops a friendship? Good communication. Individuals who fail to listen to what their friends want to say can make others feel unimportant or ignored. Such behavior can lead to misunderstandings.
Being Overly Critical
Friendships can become strained and trust can take a hit when someone is always pointing fingers at others. The action of criticizing the decisions, behaviors, or viewpoints of your friend can sabotage your friendship in the long run. That does not mean you support any wrongdoing. It means to offer constructive criticism without being overly critical.
Flakiness or Inconsistency
Friendships can suffer when someone is inconsistent and unpredictable. Individuals who repeatedly cancel plans right at the last minute or break promises often make the other ones feel unimportant and less valued. Reliability and consistency are two crucial aspects of maintaining happy relationships. Instead of canceling all plans, it is better to decline certain invitations beforehand.
Being Unreliable
Just like being inconsistent, being unreliable can also sabotage friendships. Such behavior may include constantly being late, always wanting the other one to adjust more, making plans always as per your convenience, and so on. These habits can cause friendships to suffer due to disappointment and frustration. Being unreliable can seriously harm a relationship.
Being Dishonest
Dishonesty in friendship will spoil the relationship, no matter how well you bond with your friend. Being dishonest or lying to your friend destroys trust, thus harming the bond between you two. A strong, unbreakable friendship can only be established and maintained by being open and truthful with each other.
Being Too Needy
Your friends are there to offer support, but being too needy is not something they would appreciate. Over-dependence on someone for emotional support and assistance can sabotage the other individual. Taking advice and support is different from constantly seeking validation, attention, or reassurance from friends. Maintaining a balance of independence is important.
Constant Social Media Tagging
It might be annoying and exhausting to constantly tag friends in social media posts. Why? Friends can feel under pressure to interact with content that they are either not interested in or do not have the time for. Overtagging can also be seen as attention-seeking, and such behavior can irritate your friend. Respect their online life and only tag them when necessary.
Always Saying “I Understand”
When “I Understand” is not followed by true understanding or feelings, it may sound arrogant. You may have the best of intentions, but such behavior can appear fake or invalidating, especially when not supported by actually listening and respecting their feelings. It is important to validate their feelings by paying attention, showing feelings, and offering support.
Always Being Negative
A toxic atmosphere is created within a friendship when one person always finds fault with the other and everything. Not only your friends but anyone will find it difficult to enjoy life with you if you are constantly in a negative mindset. As someone who constantly draws attention to the negative side of any situation, it becomes challenging to have a long lasting relationship.
Being Overly Competitive
Constantly competing with friends can sabotage friendships and cause pressure in relationships. Although healthy and occasional competitions are fun and encouraging, being overly competitive can be a deal breaker. Such behavior often leads to bitterness and a sense of failure instead of promoting a positive and cooperative environment.
Gossiping
Although friends love gossiping, sometimes gossip that spreads rumors can seriously harm trust between two individuals. Friends should be able to trust each other without worrying that their private information and secrets may be leaked to others. Once gossip damages trust, it results in pain and betrayal of emotions.
Being Disrespectful
In friendships, ignoring people’s perceptions, feelings, and opinions can be hurtful. A healthy friendship is built on respect, and it will be upsetting for your friends if you disrespect them constantly. Such behavior can come out in multiple ways like challenging their opinions, ignoring their feelings, or crossing limits.
Being Overly Clingy
Friends may feel overburdened and suffocated when others try to behave overly clingy. Such behavior can sabotage even the closest of friendships. While closeness and attachment are necessary for friendships, it is important to let the other one have their space. Not accepting someone’s need for independence and personal space are typical signs of clinginess.
Ignoring Messages Or Calls
In this digital era, communication through phones and messages holds a lot of importance in your friendship. However, if you are someone who constantly ignores calls from your friends, your behavior may slowly destroy the bond between you both. It is fine to let the other know when you are occupied; however, being ignorant of someone’s efforts is completely not acceptable.
Not Respecting Personal Space/Belongings
Friendships often strain when one party gets into another individual’s personal space. It is crucial to let your friend have their sense of privacy and independence, and value their boundaries. Checking their phone without asking, often visiting their home at odd hours, and asking extremely personal questions are some of the habits to avoid.
Being Passive Aggressive
Rather than facing issues directly, people choose to display passive aggressive behavior. Such behavior will always sabotage a friendship. The behavior may include using unnecessary sarcasm, indirect remarks, or silent treatment. Instead, choose to have an honest conversation or find an honest way to solve disagreements.
Not Apologizing When Wrong
Many friendships suffer due to resentment. The saying of “no sorry and thank you in friendship” is so old school. Saying and feeling sorry is crucial if your behavior or action has hurt the other individual. Friends who do not want to accept responsibility for their mistakes are the deal breakers.
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