The pain of losing someone you love and care for is not something anyone should ever have to ensure. It hurts. Whether you’ve lost someone to illness or an accident, or you lost someone who simply no longer wishes to be part of your relationship, a broken heart is painful. And while you probably want to kick me for saying this, you will one day look back on this moment in time and at the pain you’re feeling and realize that it was the best thing that ever happened to you. Do not get me wrong; you will not feel like this right now. It will take time, but that time will come. It doesn’t feel like it right now, and it won’t for a long time. A broken heart requires time to mend, and it’s not always easy to deal with this kind of pain. But we are here to assure you that someday you will look back and realize that your broken heart was an amazing experience. If you don’t believe us, read on to find out 10 different ways your broken heart might be the best thing for you.
It’s a Wake-Up Call
Sometimes you need a wake-up call to learn in life. Sometimes you need a broken heart to make you realize X, Y, and Z. Sometimes it takes a broken heart to teach you a lesson that will prevail and stick with you forever. Sometimes you need that broken heart to teach you that you are better than what you were settling for, and that you need to move on.
You’ll Appreciate so Much More
It might not feel like it right now, but you will appreciate what you have later on at some point. You will find someone who will love you more, or better, and you will appreciate that so much more. Maybe you didn’t appreciate the small things, such as frequent texts or calls and you wish you had. The next time around, you will appreciate those things and it will make you so much happier.
You Will Learn from It
I can’t tell you exactly what you will learn, but you will learn something. My advice might not sound like much considering the fact that I’m not quite 32, I’m about to celebrate my 10th wedding anniversary and I’ve been with my husband since I was 18, but the one time my heart was broken in the past, it hurt. A boy just before my husband hurt me, and it was awful. And what I learned is that when you are in a good relationship with a great man, you never worry. You never worry or wonder or are left questioning how he feels or where you stand, because he makes sure you know this every second of every day. That’s how my husband makes me feel, and it’s nice.
You Will Grow from It
You will become a better person. You will grow from what happened to you, and you will move on. You will become more tolerant – or less tolerant – and you will become a person who is more capable of learning and less capable of making the same mistake again and again. You will learn, and it’s something that will help you grow into a much better version of you.
You Will Find Something Better
The good news about a broken heart is that it feels like rock bottom. And when you are at the bottom, there is nowhere to go but up. You will learn very quickly that you can’t just settle for something less, and you will find something better.
You Will Learn More about You
A broken heart teaches you a lot about yourself. It will teach you what you hate, what you like, what you need and what you don’t need. It will teach you that you don’t need a man in your life to be happy. It will teach you to be happy with you, and it will teach you to learn new things and embrace change. You will become more familiar with yourself, and that’s a gift that you should give to you.
You Will Learn What You Want
The best part about a broken heart is what you learn from it; what you really want. When you are angry and upset that someone hurt you, you can look at that relationship and be very honest about what it is you want and don’t want. You won’t be so smitten and happy anymore than you overlook things that irritate you; you’ll be angry and hurt, and you’ll be ready to dissect every single last annoying thing he did to you so that you know what you want and don’t want the next time.
You Will Learn What You Don’t Want
Jerks and people who just don’t love you enough will teach you that you don’t want certain things. You will learn that, even though your heart hurts, there are certain things that you just can’t deal with and that you just do not want in a man. The good news is that this is something that’s going to make you a much better person.
You Will Become Stronger
The more you hurt, the stronger you will become. You will realize that you can handle pain and rejection. You will learn to become stronger in that you know it’s not personal. That old saying, “It’s not you, it’s me,” is actually true, and it’s going to make you stronger. You did not do anything wrong; there is nothing wrong with you. You will become a stronger person for that, and that’s something you need.
You Will Move On
It doesn’t feel like it; at all. It doesn’t feel like you will ever be whole again, but you will. It might not feel as if you will ever be good to go, or ready to move on, but you will. One day you will find that you’ve moved on. You will find that you no longer hurt, and that you are more appreciative and grateful for the lessons and you will be a better person.
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