Nothing Wrong with a Little Healthy Competition

Competition is a healthy thing; it helps you to succeed in the workforce, it helps you to train harder and become stronger. However, competition should always remain friendly and should never bring you to a point that you feel badly about yourself or your life. Unfortunately, too many women spend the vast majority of their time comparing themselves to other women, including their friends, family members and strangers. What women need to remember is that there is always going to be someone prettier, richer, smarter and funnier than they. Instead of comparing them to those women, they should just learn to love their own life and strive to improve what they think needs improvement. Competition should be healthy; it should make you a better person, not a negative, jealous, unhappy person. Turn these common competitive feelings into motivation.

Your Friend Is Losing Weight and You are a Little Jealous

Instead of being jealous that your friend is looking hotter than ever use her as your motivation to eat right and get fit. You can even turn it into a little friendly competition with her. Make her your workout buddy and create a little wager. You each write down your goal weight and make a deal that whomever gets to their goal weight first is the recipient of a celebratory cocktail courtesy of the other.

Your Friend Makes More than You

Listen, money buys things, but it doesn’t buy happiness. When you find out that your friend makes twice what you make and she has her dream job, don’t be jealous. Be happy that she is able to live her dream and is reaping the benefits of her hard work. Now make it a point to up your game and make it a goal to find your dream job or make more money. Someone is always going to have more money than you, and if you are truly happy with your life then you won’t have a problem with that. If you find that you do have a problem with that, it’s time to start making changes because something in your own life isn’t making you happy.

Your Friend Seems to Have it All and You Don’t

Unfortunately, there is always going to be people in your life who have more than you. If they make you feel that badly about yourself, perhaps you need to figure out what it is about your life that leaves you feeling unsatisfied. If your friend travels more than you, maybe you need to start researching vacations and planning ahead so you can travel more often. If she has a great marriage with a great guy, maybe you need to ask her how she makes it work and take a little of her advice. If she always looks great and has a wardrobe to die for, ask her to take you shopping with her and offer you a little advice.

There is no reason you should feel inferior to anyone. In fact, feeling inferior to people is a sign that you need to make changes to your own life to finally put you in the position you want. The person making you feel inferior is often yourself; your fabulous friends probably have a long list of traits that they admire just as much about you as you admire about them.


Leave a Reply