How is it that some couples can stay so happy after so many years of marriage when others are struggling to remember why they even fell in love in the first place after only a year or two? Well, some people just aren’t meant to be and that’s apparent. Others, however, just forget a few important rules of marriage that allow them to stay happy for the rest of their lives. The honeymoon stage doesn’t have to end; you just think it does because that’s what you’ve been brought up to believe.
Toss Mind Reading Out the Window
You want a break from the kids or a bouquet of flowers for no reason or him to plan a fabulous date night that includes wining and dining you in a great new dress with great hair and no kids in sight. Okay, that’s great. In marriage, we all want that from time to time. Here’s the deal; if you don’t voice that to him or vice versa, he’s not going to know. If he doesn’t read these thoughts in your mind the second you have them, resentment happens immediately. When you feel resentment, you feel anger. Now you’re mad and he has no idea why. Stop expecting him to read your mind and know what you want before you know you want it. Say it out loud (and wait to get angry until he ignores you).
Learn to Say No
No means happiness in marriage. However, it’s not easy to say. You need to say no to the things and people that stress you out, take you away from your family or take up too much of your time. If you’re already stretched thin, start saying no to others because that translates into yes for your family and your marriage.
Learn to Say Yes
Maybe your husband wants you to put down your phone or your laptop and take a walk or take the kids out to play together. Say yes. Always say yes to creating memories and being with your marriage and your family. It’s going to change your life.