When someone asks you out on a first date, it can be both exciting and intimidating. There’s this innate sense of wonder that this is the first date, the first time you get to sit down one-on-one with someone and get to know them as they are. Will they be the “one”? Will they be a great friend? Will this turn into a relationship? There are so many unanswered questions that stem from any first date, but there are also questions you shouldn’t leave unasked or unanswered on your next first date.
You don’t have to straight up as a man or woman, “What is your goal in life?” You don’t want to come off as the kind of person who is grilling your date. However, you can ask casually and nonchalantly by first talking about your own goals and then prompting your date to share in return. This helps you get an idea of what you have in common and whether or not this date has any future potential.
When it comes to looking for common interests, asking your date what he enjoys doing in his free time is a great way to break the ice. You can tell a lot about your date from what he or she likes to do. For example, if he likes fly fishing and camping and hiking up the world’s tallest mountains while you’re more of a relaxing on the beach with a good book or at a cooking class kind of woman, you might not have much in common.