It can create a sticky situation when you don’t like your best friend’s partner. It doesn’t really matter why you don’t like him. He could be arrogant, lazy or just plain annoying. The point is, he gets under your skin in a big way.What should you do? How can you deal with this so that you still have your best friend but don’t have to put up with him?
Skip the couples events and schedule time with your friend for just the two of you. Agreeing to get together with your best friend’s partner is not wise if you know they rub you wrong. Schedule lunch for the two of you or arrange to go get your nails done together. If you get trapped into an event, ask your man to spend time with your best friend’s partner so that you don’t have to deal with them.
It is not wise to ever say anything about your feelings to your best friend. For some reason, she loves him. It may help you to remember that there has to be something good about him or your best friend would have never fallen for him. The only situation when you might consider talking about your best friend’s partner with her is if you know for a fact that they are cheating and that is a deeply personal decision that you have to make for yourself.
Saying unkind things or running your best friend’s partner down will not enrich your friendship. It may very well drive a wedge between the two of you that cannot be fixed. Make your mind up to stay away from that topic of conversation. If she chooses to confide in you, try to remain neutral and not use that opportunity say bad things about him. Remember that she still loves him. You friendship is more important than your dislike of your best friend’s partner.