Dealing With Distance in a Relationship

No matter how long you’ve been together, you might encounter a time when you or your partner becomes unavailable emotionally. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, it can be fixed if you start early enough. Sometimes life just gets in the way and we don’t handle it well. Maybe you have a new baby, a new job, you made a big move that takes you away from your friends and family, or maybe you just made it a habit to stop connecting with one another because of all these things. Whatever the problem is, you can reconnect with your spouse if you just make it an effort. Your marriage will be better than ever if you follow this distance advice.

Respect Your Differences

One thing my husband and I had to learn to do is to respect our differences. While we are good at managing life and have managed avoid too much stress, when we do feel stressed, we each handle it differently. He likes to talk about it, while I like to be left alone until I have things under control. His incessant talking makes me crazy from time to time, and my ignoring him aggravates him. Once we learned to give the other an hour to deal, we then work on it together.

Stop Taking Things so Personally

There’s no reason for you to take everything personally. When you are in a bad mood you don’t want your husband asking you repeatedly what he’s done wrong anymore than he wants you to treat him this way. From now on, let him stew for a while and then talk to him about it when he’s ready.

Take it Down a Notch

When you sense your partner is stressed or distant, your first reaction might be to press the issue and try and offer plenty of advice on how he can rid himself of his negative feelings and make things better between the two of you. However, this is not a good idea. Simply ask him to talk to you when he’s ready and wait for it to happen.


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