While I am not much of a complainer in a very serious manner (I prefer to joke about my problems), my life is filled with just as much stress and negativity as anyone else’s. Often criticized for being “perfect” or “Perky” or “blessed without issues,” I have to stop you there if that is your belief about me. I choose not to complain about my issues simply because they are not that serious. At the end of the day, I have my health and my family and that’s a pretty good deal. I learned a long time ago that being negative and complaining all the time really drains me, makes it difficult for me to embrace the good in life, and it teaches my children negative habits.
I am just as irritated with certain things every single day as anyone else, but I’ve noticed that since I made the concentrated effort to stop complaining and to start focusing on the good in life rather than the negative, much of my life has changed for the better – I’m not even joking. It’s almost as if by changing my negative thoughts into positive ones, I’m more capable of seeing the good in things. When I’m in a negative situation, it’s far easier for me to see a solution, or a silver lining. It’s changed my personal life, my parenting, and even my financial life. I don’t know if it works for everyone, and I’m not saying it will work for you, but there are some serious benefits associated with choosing positivity over negativity, and I thought I might share them with you.
Better financial decisions
When I’m in a good mood, I tend not to do things I usually do when I’m in a bad mood. When I’m in a bad mood or the world is against me, I can justify the purchase of a pair of $800 shoes in a half second. When I’m in a good mood, I remember that while I might be able to buy them, I also have four kids to consider and maybe I shouldn’t. Being positive allows me to view my finances in a more positive manner rather than a destructive one.
Better Personal Decisions
One thing that I’ve noticed about my behavior now that I’m more positive is that I have less patience for those who are not. I’ve found that many of the people I formerly associated with have become few and far between if they are negative or complainers. This has caused me to spend more time with the people who are more like me, which means I’m more driven and motivated to continue with a positive outlook. This has led me to work harder, to save more and to make better decisions.
A Better Lifestyle
I’m going to be quite honest with you; my marriage has never been better. When I realized that I have the power to focus on my husband’s good qualities rather than his negative qualities, I became a much happier person. He also became a much happier person. He now works even harder to make me happy and to be the best of the best, and I find myself doing the same for him. We are a better team, and we are far better parents. We have more patience and more laughter, and it’s been a good change throughout every aspect of our lives.
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