Whether you’ve been married for years, are engaged to be married or have only been dating a short time, there are things you can do to make your relationship better. Oftentimes, newly dating couples look forward to a time when they’ve been together so long that they are inherently comfortable with one another. Similarly, couples who have been together for years often long for the feelings they had at the beginning of their relationship; the feelings of excitement and discovery. The truth is that it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together; by implementing a few simple things into your daily life, your relationship will be better than ever.
When you first began dating, you thanked him for every open door, every washed dish and every thoughtful expression, and he reciprocated his gratefulness to you. Fast forward 15 years and think about how often you express your gratitude for one another. You may think that just because it’s his job to take out the trash, and that he’s been taking it out for 15 years that you don’t need to say thank you anymore. However, by saying thank you for the simple things that you each do for one another and your family, you are reinforcing your appreciation and positive feelings for one another. A person who is shown appreciation for the little things is more likely to reciprocate and attempt to make the other feel just as special, which is always great for your relationship.
Contrary to popular belief, great relationships are not had by those who never argue. There is not one person in the entire world who is perfect; therefore, there is no relationship that is without its annoyances and arguments. The point of arguing is to work through your differences and come out stronger at the end. The key is to argue respectfully; never use language or words you cannot take back. Do not call one another names and do not make the other feel that their opinion is not worthwhile. Arguing in a healthy manner will make you stronger and happier as a couple, every time. And most importantly, don’t forget to make up after your arguments.
Spend Time Alone
Life is busy and you often feel you haven’t enough time to use the restroom, which makes it impossible for you to find a few minutes alone together each day; especially if you have children. Time alone does not mean time together folding laundry or unloading the dishwasher. Spend at least 10 minutes each day doing absolutely nothing but focusing on one another, and talking about your days. This uninterrupted time together is important for you to remain connected, and to feel that you still share a special bond.