When women ask what they can do to become more successful or make positive changes in their lives, some of the best advice is to stop talking about it and actually do it. Here’s the problem; too many women make it a habit to talk about all the changes they’re going to make while simultaneously forgetting two things. The first is that change does not occur unless you actually do something to make it happen. The second is that actions speak far louder than words. Here are three pieces of advice we should all follow when attempting to make positive changes.
Don’t Say It; Do It
If you want to make a positive change in your life, then go for it. More power to you. But instead of talking about it all day long, just do it. Want to get rid of the negative people in your life? Stop posting about it on Facebook to let them know you’re getting rid of them, and just get rid of them. This doesn’t mean you have to avoid telling people you are ready to make some changes in your life, just be sure that your actions match your words or your promises are empty.
Don’t Condemn Others
Positive change does not happen with a negative mind and negative words. I personally feel that those who want to make positive changes shouldn’t condemn others for not wanting to make positive changes or not agreeing with them. It’s okay to have your opinion, but condemning others for their choices simply because are not the same as yours is too negative. Live and let live.
Actions Speak Much Louder Than Words
If you want people to know you’ve changed, don’t tell them about it. Let your actions and lifestyle do the speaking for you. Let’s use this as an example; if you want to let your friends and family know that you no longer deal with silly drama, then don’t deal with it. However, don’t talk about it. I think that those who like to point out that they don’t deal with drama or that they are better than this or that or the other are usually the people who have the most of it in their lives. Saying something does not make it true; doing it does.