3 Simple Ways to Keep your Composure in Any Situation

We all have a moment or two in life in which we completely lose our composure and overreact to a situation, a person or a behavior. It’s not exactly our proudest moment, but that doesn’t mean we should let it get us down too much. No one is able to keep their composure 24/7. However, if your composure suffers a bit more than most, you might consider the fact that you need a bit of practice in keeping your cool to avoid future embarrassment – or just to avoid causing a massive scene.

This is an especially great lesson to learn right now with so much family time coming up because of the holiday.

Learn to let it Go

There are just some people in your life – you know who they are – that know which buttons to push and when to push them. You need to learn to let it go. Ignore them. Expect their behavior or their words and just let it go. The better you become at doing this, the more likely you are to keep your composure and not lose your cool the next time they say or do something frustrating.


It sounds cliché, but one of the best ways to calm down in a moment’s time is to breathe. Take deep breaths in and out, count to 10 – or 20 depending on the situation – and then respond. That time in which you keep your mouth shut is all you need to control your emotions and think about the words that want to come out of your mouth. Perhaps it will even give you the time to edit them.

Lower your Voice

When you lose your composure, you probably raise your voice. When you feel yourself losing your cool, lower your voice. It’s an effort, but it’s the kind of effort you need to make in order for your mind to catch up to your mouth. You’ll be more careful about what you say and how you say it.

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