You’re Oversharing If You Talk About These 15 Things

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You’re oversharing if you talk about these 15 things. Seriously, not a lot of people need to know this much about you.

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No one wants to hear every complaint you have about life

Venting is important, that much is true. But if you feel the need to vent every day then you need to find a mirror and unload that vitriol into the open air, not the ears of someone who doesn’t need to hear it.

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Your list of frenemies

You never know who might take offense to your list of likes and dislikes about people. You’re oversharing if you let loose with who you like or dislike and why, and it could bite you hard in the backside.

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Childhood trauma

This is a touchy subject to start with, and if you’re oversharing your troubled childhood it indicates a few things, not the least of which is that you need therapy. If you feel the need to unload this on someone sitting next to you on the bus, be ready for odd looks and the awkward shifting that gets them away from you.

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Future plans

Do you care that much about someone else’s itinerary? Plus, if you’re oversharing about this, there’s no telling who’s going to be motivated enough to derail your plans at some point in the future.

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What you’re afraid of

Why in the world would you expose yourself like this? It’s great to get this stuff off of your chest, but it also makes you look less confident and extremely weak.

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Health problems

This isn’t anyone else’s business unless one is talking about your spouse, significant other, or family. A stranger doesn’t need to hear this, and many probably don’t want to.

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Your income

This is like playing Russian roulette with your finances sometimes. People don’t need to know how much you make. If you’re oversharing this information you might as well hand over your wallet to some folks.

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Your insecurities

At one point a lot of this feels like sado-masochism if you’re oversharing the type of stuff that makes people aware of how truly vulnerable you are. The upside of this is that a lot of people don’t care and will ignore you. But the downside is that you do look like a weak-willed individual with nothing to look forward to in life.

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Family issues

Unless you’re talking to family or friends who care, don’t bother unloading your family’s dirty laundry. Most people don’t want to hear this since, newsflash, it’s not their business.

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Your mistakes

At some point in life, we all mess up at least once or twice. But highlighting these moments isn’t necessary unless they contribute to life-long learning, and can be laughed at in a friendly, nostalgic manner.

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Spiritual beliefs

What you believe in is your business, no one else’s. If you want to talk about it and gauge the reactions of others then it pays to be respectful and hear them out. Otherwise, don’t bother bringing it up.

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Sexual orientation

This is something that people need to figure out on their own, and much like many things on this list, it’s no one else’s business unless you make it that way. If you feel the need to talk to someone close to you about it, then do so.

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Other people’s secrets 

This is dangerous territory to be in. If someone confides in you about something and asks you to stay quiet, then keep your lips shut. They’ve trusted you to keep their secret, since otherwise you’re not a friend, you’re a gossip.

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Your political beliefs

It’s like walking on hot coals sometimes, since one step might be okay and the next might burn the hell out of you if you’re not careful. Keep your politics to yourself until you know that the person you’re talking to leans the same way you do.

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Sexual preferences

Unlike orientation, this gets a bit messy when you start talking about it. A lot of people don’t want to hear it and will act in disgust depending on what you tell them. Keep this kind of stuff on a personal level in the bedroom….please.