15 Things Unloved Daughters Need To Hear

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There are more than 15 things unloved daughters need to hear. But these first 15 are a great start for every daughter.

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“We’re/I’m here for you.”

It’s often said to people who have withstood neglect, but it’s still important. The comfort that comes from knowing that someone cares is invaluable.

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“You need to be heard.”

Technically, many people need to hear this. But daughters who haven’t felt an overwhelming amount of love need to speak up and build their confidence.

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“Learn from the past, don’t be defined by it.”

This is something that all unloved daughters need to hear. The lack of love in your past is not what defines you. The strength you showed by surviving this is a far better definition of your character.

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“You deserve a meaningful connection.”

This is another thing that many unloved daughters need to hear, even if people say it repeatedly. Those who are ready for a stable relationship deserve something and someone who can keep them happy and secure.

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“What you feel is valid.”

Amazingly, some people are uncertain of whether or not they are allowed to feel the way they want. What they need to hear is that yes, their feelings are valid. Don’t bury yourself in your feelings, but feel free to have and express them.

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“You are not at fault.”

One of the most insidious effects that emotional neglect brings is the feeling that the unloved are somehow responsible for their parent’s lack of love. It’s vital to let them know that the faults of their parents are not their responsibility.

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“You’re worth it.”

Whatever ‘it’ is, you’re worth it. This is something that a lot of people need to hear now and then, but unloved daughters can gain strength by knowing that they’re worth love, respect, and the dignity that comes from having people who will build them up.

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“Find your happiness.”

It’s not a matter of telling a person to earn it, to wait for it, or even accept it. This is a way to tell unloved daughters that they deserve this happiness, and that all they need to do is find who or what will give it to them without condition.

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“Asking for help is smart.”

No one should have to deal with their issues alone. Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness, and unloved daughters need to hear this every now and again.

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“Use your judgment.”

Self-doubt is natural when one grows up without an abundance of love. But building a person up by telling them to use their best judgment is liberating, even if it is tricky.

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“Take care of your needs.”

Why some people put their needs behind others is hard to fathom at times, but it does happen. Sometimes though, an unloved daughter should take care of herself and no one else. This is a good balance to strike.

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“You’re stronger than you think.”

It’s a very tired old cliche, but it’s still true no matter what. The type of strength it takes to exist without enough love is impressive, and it’s also untapped potential waiting to be used.

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“Set your boundaries and enforce them.”

It’s tough to set boundaries without having any while growing up. But telling an unloved daughter to set her boundaries is a wake-up call to let them know that they can draw their own lines and stick with them.

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“Cut out the noise and listen to your own voice.”

Too many people will seek to advise those they think need their help. Sometimes it’s wisdom and altruism that guide these opinions, but an individual still needs to listen to their own voice at the end of the day.

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“Do your own thing.”

This is good advice for anyone, but for an unloved daughter, it’s powerful despite being vague. Telling someone to do their own thing is, essentially, telling them to step out into the world and do what it takes to thrive.