Anytime you feel the need to bring home a little blue box from Tiffany’s for your beautiful wife is considered an important relationship splurge. If you are more budget-oriented, a Snickers bar has almost the exact same effect as the Tiffany’s box (trust me, I’m a woman and I have the same reaction to both anytime they come home with my husband). Flowers are always nice, and date nights are a must – especially if you have kids. Just because you are in the throes of a real relationship that’s long past the honeymoon phase and no longer fresh and new doesn’t mean you get to treat it like something old and unimportant. Your marriage or relationship needs your attention, love and care to make it feel good on a regular basis, and these are not the words of a woman who just wants gifts. This goes both ways, ladies and gentleman (let’s just remember this; happy wife, happy life). What you do with your finances is your business, but there are a few occasions in which it always appropriate to spend money on your relationship. Don’t know what those are? Let me help you out (don’t forget a shout on to me in your 50-year wedding anniversary toast, mmkay?).
If your relationship is the kind that goes long-term such as a marriage, it becomes important for you to splurge on your future. You do want to save money for things like a house and a baby and a life together, so go ahead and do that. This kind of relationship splurge could mean anything from making a move for a job to funding a retirement account to starting a savings account with a big increase in what you put into it.
If you’re homeowners looking to live a long and happy life together, you should splurge on your home. It is, after all, the place that makes you happy and brings you joy, so put some money into it. Upgrade the yard, add some curb appeal, spend money on a really nice mattress; these are things in your marriage that deserve a little splurge.
It’s fine – imperative, really – to spend money on safety. If you prefer your wife and kids have a safe car, buy one. If you travel and feel safer with your family in a home with a state-of-the-art security system, buy it. These are the kinds of things in your relationship that are worth the money since they provide you with peace of mind.
Want to go to Tahiti and spend a week in an over the water bungalow? Do it! You are a couple, and you are in love. You should spend a bit more money on things like this that are special once-in-a-lifetime purchases. It’s worth it in the long run, and you’ll be much happier that you did spend the extra money and do what you really wanted to do.
Your Date Nights
Now, let’s be clear about something. I’m not suggesting that you splurge on a $500 dinner every week when you celebrate date night. However, I am encouraging you to splurge every once in a while on a date night that’s a little bit more than what you might ordinarily do. I’m sure that cheese and chocolate at the Melting Pot is delicious (I mean, it’s totally delicious) but it’s not always the most romantic date night if you go all the time. A little splurge, a little something nice will really do wonders for your marriage.
Your Loves and Hobbies
When you are happy and fulfilled, chances are good that you are making your partner feel loved, happy and fulfilled. When you are happy, it’s easier for you to make others happy. When you invest in your own interests, it’s very easy for you to live a happier life. That’s something that will resonate with everyone in the house.
This is the celebration of the day that you *insert celebratory moment here* and that is worth celebrating. Splurge on it; do something nice. When my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last month we splurged on a weekend away in a gorgeous suite at a 5-star resort with the kids and a gorgeous vacation that was only for the two of us a weekend later. We also got beautiful gifts, such as flowers and a beautiful new Kate Spade handbag for me and a couple pair of new Sperry deck shoes, Yeti Colsters and a new Yeti 45 for my husband. There’s no reason not to splurge on nice things for your anniversary.
When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good about you, you are a much nicer person. At least that’s true for me. But there is one thing that my husband appreciates about me, and it’s the fact that even after four kids, I still put forth the effort to look good every day and maintain a fit body. That means hair and makeup every day. He thinks I like to do it for him, but it’s for me. Either way, when I look good, I feel good and I’m much more pleasant to be around. My vanity might be the reason we are still married (kidding…mostly!).
Help Around the House
Whether it’s someone to maintain your lawn, clean your house, watch your kids or help out with the errands, paying someone to do things that make your life easier is actually a relationship splurge. When we pay for a babysitter, it’s so we can spend quality time together that’s important for our marriage. When we pay a lawn service to come to our house and maintain our lawn, it’s so my husband doesn’t spent hours on the lawnmower every week instead of with his family. It’s for the good of our marriage.
There is always room in the budget for romance, no matter what it is. If you have a big budget, jewelry, flowers and travel are always nice. But at the end of the day, it’s the small things that matter most. I like when my husband books us something like a couple’s massage and surprises me. I like when he arranges for his mom to stay with our kids and surprises me with a weekend away with just him. I also LOVE it when he leaves me a $3 card in which he’s written a thoughtful note to find when I get up at 5 am and head into my office to get some work done before the kids wake up. It’s the little things, but the big ones are nice on occasion, too.
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